Things Women Say That Men Hate Hearing.....

I need to tell you something”
 Telling a man that you need to talk or that you need to tell him something is one of the quickest and easiest ways to make him feel extremely uneasy. In most cases, these phrases typically mean that something isn’t right which will automatically ruin his day, especially if you hold off on really talking about what is wrong. Instead of starting off your conversations with either of these phrases, just get to the point.

“Does this make me look fat?”
We all want our man to think that we look nice in whatever outfit we choose. However, asking your man if you look fat in this dress or those pants is merely a loaded question with no real good answer. Even if your man says no, you clearly think you look fat or else you’d have never asked the question. More than likely your man will compliment you, so stray away from seeking acceptance.

“I don’t like your friend(s)”
It’s not uncommon for you to not like a few of the guy friends that make up your man’s social group. Maybe this one guy is just too obnoxious for you or maybe he seems a bit too shady. Whatever the case may be, no matter how much you dislike a friend or two of his, it’s best to just keep it to yourself as it will only create an argument that neither you nor your man can win. Accept things for what they are and try to be as understanding as you can.

 “You’re such a mama’s boy”
 Most men are close to their mothers in some way or another, and while he may compare some of your qualities to hers, no man wants to be told that he is a mama’s boy. A lot of men are extremely touchy and sensitive when it comes to their mothers, and no man really wants to be told that he is still a bit too attached to his mom. This is another statement worth keeping to yourself. “Do what you want” Do what you want, I don’t care, and other empty statements are phrases and words that no man wants to hear. The fact is that even though you say these things, you don’t really mean them, and you and your man both know this. Instead of dancing around your real feelings and thoughts, just let them out.

 “Am I prettier than her?” 
This is another loaded question that really isn’t a fair thing to ask your man. Of course any man will find other women attractive, but that doesn’t mean he puts them above you. Women tend to only ask this question when they are insecure and lacking self-confidence. If your man is with you, he loves you and wants you, not someone else. So while you may think another women is higher than you on the attractiveness scale, your man is with you, and that’s all that matters.

 “Why can’t you be more like…” 
Comparing your man to another one and questioning why he isn’t more like another man can be devastating. Men pride themselves on being unique, and by comparing your man to someone else you’re taking away from his individuality. Asking your man to be like another man is a huge blow to the ego, and it can definitely lead to a bad situation, if not a break up.

 “My ex…”
 No matter how long you two have been together or how close you two are, there is never a time when your man wants to hear you talk about your ex. Starting any sentence with those two dreaded words will rarely lead to a conversation that your man wants to have. It’s okay to talk about your ex at times, but mentioning him over and over again can be annoying, frustrating, and even a bit nerve-wracking for your man.

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LET’S TALK ABOUT PLANNING

I stumbled on this from a friend's blog so I felt I should share it 

By Seun Alade

“Do you know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. “ 1 Corinthians 9:24, 26 (NIV)


 We all can still remember January like it was yesterday. Its a fast paced world where time flies. Everywhere you turn you hear - no time. Its November already. 2013 is almost ending and 2014 is lurking around the corners. I know that 2013 isn’t yet over but allow me share something(s) I have learnt this year on the topic (and reality) of planning.

 One of the best things I did this year was scheduling a part of my annual leave for the beginning of the year. It afforded me the opportunity to put life in slow motion. I realise that a lot of times we get into the new year in a rush. We are reminded of the things we hoped to do the previous year or some years back that are still left undone, so we bring that “aggression” into the new year and begin the year in turbo mode. Speed does little as a game changer in the rat race! Sometimes, what we need do is to make a pause and try to change how we have always done things. Albert Einstein said Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

 Starting the year with a vacation was sweet. It afforded me the chance to consider what approach to use. So I had the opportunity of doing some brain storming, some consultations etc. It was a new year, I wanted to do some things differently. I had plans and I shared some of them here at the beginning of the year.

 The magic of having a plan More than ever before in my life, in 2013 I saw the wisdom in careful, thoughtful and well written out plans. Gosh, the results are mind blowing. I’m still learning though but I’m amazed at how plans once written down can take up a life of their own. Myles Munroe was in the country recently and one of the things he said that hit me was this – failure is predictable!

You see, no one draws up a beautiful grand plan of how to achieve failure but failure is a consequence of lack of planning. I can’t ever forget how our teachers back at FGC Ikirun used to sing that chorus to our ears – if you fail to plan, you have planned to fail. Let me state an example, at the beginning of the year, I said there would always be a new piece on this blog at least once every month and we kept at it (except for July). The idea for a monthly presence (at the least) is part of a long term goal and I can say its yielding fruits already. The blog stats have improved, the commentaries have been encouraging and I’m already getting invitations to write for some other blogs (without asking).

 One of them came from Imisi, one of the baddest guy ever liveth that I know. He runs a very brilliant blog and I think you should go see it. He has an idea for a series and I was invited to come on board with him and some other baddest guys (and babe). A plan, if followed, does magic. Everything doesn’t always work out as planned. You’d wish I only share the sweet sides of having a plan, but no, I will share this part too because it comes with planning. Almost everyone knows that its good to have a plan but its not everyone that plans. One of the reasons for this is because we are afraid of failure. We know that things don’t always work out as planned and so, some of us want to be spared the pain of disappointment(s). Good as that may sound, it still doesn’t justify why you shouldn’t plan.

 One of my plans for this year was to publish a book. I put in resources to achieve that but whoops, it fell through. That was so painful for me. It was so painful I wanted to give up writing entirely. Somewhere in the middle of the pains, I wanted to take this blog down! And then I remember that “you should never take a permanent decision because of a temporary condition.” So, I strolled out of blogosphere and that was July (the only month there wasn’t a new post here.)

 I learnt something and it is that failures think successful people don’t fail. Warped thought. Successful people also fail. You remember Thomas Edison? We hail him for inventing the light bulb but he had 1,000 unsuccessful attempts before he did that. In times when your plans don’t work out do be reminded that you don’t hold the sole proprietorship/monopoly right over disappointment. Adjustment One of the hit bangers of the early days of hip-hop in Nigeria was the track by the defunct group Maintain where they sang – Oyinbo to se pencil lo se eraser (the white dude that made the pencil also made the eraser). That song tells us of the inevitability of errors.

To err, we say, is human. Recently I learnt something about air-crafts. I learnt that its almost impossible for a plane to fly in a straight line, the forces of nature up there work to derail the plane, therefore the pilot has to always put the plane back in focus, if not he would end up in a different destination. Isn’t life like the plane? Think about it.

We always need to revisit our plans to make adjustments and improvements. Why am I sharing this? Its because 2014 is already here. I want you to draw up your plans. I have shared this now because I’d love for you to hit the ground running when January steps in.

Soldiers, police stop Tinubu, Buhari, others at INEC office

Soldiers, riot policemen and other security agencies on Thursday confronted the leaders of the All Progressives Congress during their march to the headquarters of the Independent National Electoral Commission in Abuja to protest against the November 16 Anambra state governorship election.

After a strategic meeting in the APC’s new secretariat in Wuse 2 in the Federal Capital Territory, which lasted about three hours, the party leaders took to the streets and embarked on a procession to INEC’s office in Maitama District. The protesters however met a stiff resistance from stern-looking security operatives comprising the Police, soldiers, SSS and Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps. An Armoured Personnel Carrier, marked NPF 6359 C, measuring about 40-feet long, was used to barricade the entrance to the commission’s office, while the driver of the truck and police officers were pelted with sachets of water by the APC youths.

In their separate speeches, the APC national Chairman, Chief Bisi Akande; National Leader of the party and former governor of Lagos State, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu; former chairman of ANPP, Dr. Ogbonnaya Onu; and ex-Head of State, Maj.-Gen. Muhammadu Buhari(retd.), called for the sacking of INEC Chairman, Prof. Attahiru Jega, with immediate effect for his handling of the Anambra State governorship poll and the recent Delta State Senatorial by-election.

FG issues 7 days ultimatum to ASUU

During a press briefing in Abuja this morning, the acting Minister of Education, Nyesom Wike told journalist that the Federal Government has given the Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU) one week ultimatum to call off the ongoing strike. Or else what?

ASUU execs and President Jonathan were supposed to meet this week but the meeting is yet to hold. The ASUU strike began July 1, almost 5 months later, no resolution in sight. Sad!

 The FG also said any Academic staff who fails to resume on or before December 4th automatically ceases to be a staff of the institution. Pro-chancellors of the various universities and the National Universities Commissions (NUC) have been directed to ensure compliance of this directive.

Adetoun Releases Promotional Pictures For New Single

 2nd runner up at MTN Project Fame 5 and versatile performer, Adetoun has released promotional pictures for her new single titled Omo Naaa, meaning That Child. Adetoun is also a graduate of Mass Communication from Olabisi Onabanjo University.

First Lady Michelle Obama Shares The First Family’s Holiday Traditions

First lady Michelle Obama has shared her family’s favorite holiday traditions with Ladies’ Home Journal for this month’s cover story.

 In a piece called Christmas at the White House, Mrs. Obama reveals the holiday tunes and cooking activities she and her closest loved ones enjoy to make the season bright. “The sounds of Christmas in the Obama White House mean James Taylor, Mariah Carey and Nat King Cole,” reports New York’s Daily News about how America’s Mom-in-Chief sets a seasonal mood. Christmas at the White House is certainly a grand experience compared to Michelle Obama’s humble holidays with her mother, father and brother growing up in the South Side of Chicago.

 Even though they were of working class means, Christmas was enriched through her mother’s loving attentiveness. “Christmas has always been a special time in my household. Growing up, we lived in a little-bitty apartment, but my mom put her heart and soul into decorating that house,” she remembers. “She would take cardboard and make a chimney over our radiator because she wanted us to feel like we had something for Santa Claus to come down.”

 In addition to sharing personal family memories, the first lady dazzles in the photo shoot accompanying the piece in a golden brocade dress that shows off her amazing arms. “Can you say gorgeous?!” opined the Mrs. O blog about the festive garment. To reference President Obama‘s first campaign slogan: Yes, we can!

Asari Dokubo released

It was gathered that the former militant was immediately flown to Abuja. Dokubo was arrested Tuesday afternoon in Cotonou. - See  more HERE