I know there are loads of people, dudes and ladies who so desperately want to get married. Their lives are either on 'pause' or oscillating around the same spot like a pendulum. They look forward to that person who will 'turn their lives around" and just "fix it". Hope deferred makes the heart sick. It seems to some people that the older they get, the further away the right person seems to move. This long wait has resulted in anxiety and some are on the verge of depression.
You need to know that to think marriage will make you happy is to misplace your expectations. If as a person, your attitude is messed up, marriage won't fix things; it will just complicate the existing mess. Marriage is like building a house. If you're doing the right thing, you'll know it's no fun ride all the way, you'll need to dig, carry tools, get your hands dirty in the process of putting the structure in place. So, an unhappy (expecting to be happy in marriage) person will be overwhelmed when he/she sees that there's work to be done to enjoy marriage. Therefore singles, before embarking on marriage or marriage relationship, be a happy, fulfilled independent single.
Only then are you qualified to enjoy bliss in marriage. A great marriage is the union of two selflessly giving people. Make up your mind to be happy and not wait for your happiness to be hinged on someone else. Only then can you attract the right person. Remember, marriage is the giving of selfless love to one another, you must be ready to compromise (but not your faith). I've come to realize women need a lot of work to help the relationship. 99% of guys love soccer, I will strongly advise you to start developing interest in your time of waiting for the Mr. Right.
You cannot stop him from watching it let's get that clear, if you support him or show interest, it might go a long way in bringing him home to watch with you than in a viewing centre amidst his friends. Look out for what he likes most and develop yourself in such area, it appeases him and makes him feels acceptable. Men love movies, try to watch some too, read books, I keep saying read books because I want you to know something about everything. You can use your frame and figure to attract a man but your intelligence is what will keep him.
An average man admires and appreciate intelligence. So before he comes around, equip yourself!
Men; you can start to learn some cooking tips too, know about ladies' clothing, gift items, baby materials and so on. Reading books and attending seminars are not tagged 'female only', try to develop yourself too.
Your waiting time is useful, make better use of it than exercising worries! Shalom
Oluwatoyin Adebowale
KEY ©2014
You need to know that to think marriage will make you happy is to misplace your expectations. If as a person, your attitude is messed up, marriage won't fix things; it will just complicate the existing mess. Marriage is like building a house. If you're doing the right thing, you'll know it's no fun ride all the way, you'll need to dig, carry tools, get your hands dirty in the process of putting the structure in place. So, an unhappy (expecting to be happy in marriage) person will be overwhelmed when he/she sees that there's work to be done to enjoy marriage. Therefore singles, before embarking on marriage or marriage relationship, be a happy, fulfilled independent single.
Only then are you qualified to enjoy bliss in marriage. A great marriage is the union of two selflessly giving people. Make up your mind to be happy and not wait for your happiness to be hinged on someone else. Only then can you attract the right person. Remember, marriage is the giving of selfless love to one another, you must be ready to compromise (but not your faith). I've come to realize women need a lot of work to help the relationship. 99% of guys love soccer, I will strongly advise you to start developing interest in your time of waiting for the Mr. Right.
You cannot stop him from watching it let's get that clear, if you support him or show interest, it might go a long way in bringing him home to watch with you than in a viewing centre amidst his friends. Look out for what he likes most and develop yourself in such area, it appeases him and makes him feels acceptable. Men love movies, try to watch some too, read books, I keep saying read books because I want you to know something about everything. You can use your frame and figure to attract a man but your intelligence is what will keep him.
An average man admires and appreciate intelligence. So before he comes around, equip yourself!
Men; you can start to learn some cooking tips too, know about ladies' clothing, gift items, baby materials and so on. Reading books and attending seminars are not tagged 'female only', try to develop yourself too.
Your waiting time is useful, make better use of it than exercising worries! Shalom
Oluwatoyin Adebowale
KEY ©2014
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