10 Natural Hair Truths You Should Know

                                       

 The argument pro and con natural hair has been going on for a long while and even though people have their reservations about going full on natural, there are those who want to embrace the look but don’t know the first thing about it.

 Undoubtedly there are a lot of things to consider like deciding if you want to go natural with or without cutting your hair, if your hair will have a natural curl pattern; and thirdly, if this is the right choice for you. But despite these questions there are those who have decided and want to take the first step in their natural hair journey.

 1. Before you begin this journey you should come to an understanding that hair is personal - It is individual and it is your decision. Be sure you want to go natural before taking the step. This certainty would make the journey that much easier and smoother for you as you would have to be dedicated to making it work.

 2. To transition or not to transition – There is the question of the loss of femininity when going natural. Some people thing that cutting off your hair aka ‘the big chop’ would make them seem more masculine. There is another option; you could choose to leave your relaxed hair on and just grow it out. Maintenance can be done here by washing or co-washing (washing hair with only conditioner) your hair regularly to maintain a healthy head of locks. Eventually when your new roots get to a stage where you’re comfortable with them, you can then cut off the relaxed part.

 3. You can never get too much information about your hair – Don’t limit yourself; Knowledge is power. Search for more information about natural hair maintenance and what it really requires to be a natural. Be sure to visit a professional natural hair care specialist to get advice on hair products and help out in the process. You may not need to treat your hair often, but you would need a hair specialist to help customize a hair care regimen to suit your own hair needs.

 4. You may/will become product crazy (‘Product Junkie’) – With your new natural hair you would have the urge to invade YouTube and try all the products natural hair bloggers show you. This is not advisable. Using too much at once could interrupt your hair growth and natural pattern formation. Once you have found your hair regimen, stick to it. If you want to change it, wait until you have exhausted the one you previously used then make the switch.

 5. You still have the option of using weaves – Using curly weaves is a great way to help you care for your natural hair. How? Get a weave that has a similar curl pattern to your hair, this would be great practice for you if and when you decide to go all natural.

 6. Protective hairstyles help prevent your hair from breakage while you are transitioning. They could be in the form of buns, braids, twists etc. However make sure you do not tie or braid your hair too tight; it could cause tension on your scalp and this could lead to permanent hair loss. Kind of defeats the purpose doesn’t it?

 7. Keep an open mind – Most times when people think of natural hair they think of Solange; truth is your hair may not turn out that way. It may be more kinky than curly or otherwise. It is important to note that everyone has an individual curl pattern that could involve two or three different types of curls. You have to learn to embrace it and style it to suit you. Don’t worry it is possible.

 8. Sometimes our natural hair doesn’t grow into a defined pattern or curl – You can manipulate this with plastic coils, flexi rods or straws. They help give hair that pattern and bounce and lasts a few days.

 9. Maintaining natural hair takes time - Whoever said going natural was going to be easier, lied. It takes almost as much time and attention that relaxed hair does, maybe even more. Like we said before, you have to come up with a regimen that suits your hair, it wont always be a wash and go process, you would have to work at it.

 10. You will still have bad hair days – With relaxed hair you couldn’t afford to let that happen, but now that you’re natural, is okay to let that happen. Your hair having a little frizz is normal and sometimes might be necessary to pull off some hairstyles. The journey to natural hair growth is something you have to decide on your own. It shouldn’t be part of a band wagon mentality and hopefully you will enjoy your hair as you continue. Are you a natural? Do you know something we don’t?
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What is Delaying Your Ring? 10 Surefire Ways To Get Him to Pop the Question

                                          

 It’s on blackberry messenger display pictures! It’s being posted on Instagram. Girls are getting hitched and flaunting that rock on their finger. Don’t dull in your father’s house and plan other people’s weddings! I am here to help you so you don’t become a last carrier.

 Do you have a boo? Do you want to be his Mrs? If you are desperate enough, try all ten or maybe a couple of the following suggestions.

 Become His Mother’s Best Friend Why are you spending those lazy Saturday afternoons gossiping with friends and catching up on the latest gist? Why are you following him to Cold Stone for ice-cream? Stop that now! Spend your Saturdays with your potential mum-in law. Go to the market, make her lunch and arrange her closet. That way, he’ll notice the bond between you and her. If he is a mama’s boy, you already have that ring.

 Attend Every Family Function Even if he just mentions it casually or doesn’t invite you,

 FIND the venue. That favourite aunt of his would notice you and start pestering him to marry you. Don’t forget to dress to kill and buy the Aso-Ebi where applicable.

 Cook Your Heart Out. Don’t waste his money on a buffet at Protea today and Thai food tomorrow. In fact you are wasting your children’s school fees on irrelevant dates. If you’re not able to cook, LEARN! Enroll yourself for catering classes. Furthermore, as our people say, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Let Him Win most Arguments Ladies stop arguing and just accept. Men love nothing more than to have their ego stroked, so massage and polish that ego. Sometimes there could be a particular issue in the relationship that keeps rearing its ugly head. You argue and it makes him less inclined to marry you.

 Minimize Your Outings You are on the path to being Mrs Somebody. Your man can’t propose to you if you are still gallivanting around town with your “girls” going out for drinks, concerts and so on. Hang out with them during the day. If you have to be out at night, make sure it’s in his company or a night vigil. This way, you are adding more yards to your wife material.

 Always Look Smashing There is nothing more that a man likes than his woman looking like a 10. What are you using your salary for? Invest it in your looks. That’s what attracted him in the first place. If you are into weaves, you can’t slack using cheap synthetic ones; you must go for Brazilian, Peruvian, or Mongolian weaves. If you are team natural, make sure you’ve got it together. Most importantly make sure your nails are perfectly manicured because you never know when he’ll propose.

 He Must be Your Plus+One For all Weddings. Forget that single girlfriend of yours that tags along to weddings with you to fish for men. Take your potential le hubby! This way he’ll get inspired by what he sees. In fact get all your friends to start asking “when is it your turn guys?” You know how that could be annoying. He’ll just get tired of hearing it all the time and he just might pop the Q to shut them up.

 Catching The Bouquet. This is extremely important. At every wedding you attend, you must and I stress MUST catch the bouquet by all means. You can push, pull weaves, punch your competitors or even bribe the bride. Just make sure you go home with the bouquet. If you catch it each time, he’ll think it’s a sign from God.

 You Don’t need an 18-carat Diamond Tiffany& co Engagement Ring. Nowadays, a lot of guys have it in their heads that they need to invest in a center stone and who can blame them? Ladies be content. Be it diamond, ruby, emerald, granite or a piece of Olumo rock. After all ain’t nobody’s “bidness” but yours and your baby! The whole point is to have a ring with a rock. Let your guy know you’d be happy either way. This way, he’ll need less time to save up for a ring.

 Buy your wedding dress and deposit for a reception venue! This is FAITH and the most important of all. The good book says with God all things are possible. You need to believe that he is going to propose so my dear go ahead.

 PS: Please don’t sue me if this doesn’t work, I am just trying to lighten things