LOVE IS WORK

It is easier to fall in love than to maintain and nurture love. Like I said in yesterday's article, there is more to love than the feeling or saying it. You must act it, this is an aspect most people neglect especially when the relationship has gotten into marriage, you relax thinking at least I have him or her now. Please know that just like unwanted plant and pests take over a land you don't nurture or take care of, so also is the love you don't work on can be taken over by unwanted things, not only infidelity now but separation in all aspects which can eventually ruin the love.

The Bible also confirm this in the book of 1John 3:18, 'My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.' In deed means in our action, in the way you care for your partner, your respect to him or her, in giving; remember there is no giving without love and no love without giving. In truth means in perfect faithfulness at all times; cheating isn't until you have sexual intercourse with another person, it starts from your heart (Matt.5:28) and if you will agree with me, CHEATING IS HARD WORK, you have to keep deleting sms, keep locking your phone, keep deleting messages off facebook & twitter, you find yourself spending way more money than you should, and think of lies why you didn't come home! Too much for me, I rather be loyal. Come to think of putting this energy into one person, finding ways to keep him/her happy, is life not going to be so much easier? Make sure you are never too distracted, busy or in a hurry to neglect the one you love.

 There are signs there that our man or woman needs attention and at times we tend to indicate that there are other things that are way more important. Just take an extra 5 minutes to show that person you love them and an extra five minutes to look pretty or handsome for your mate. For example, on your way home, stop at the store and grab gift(s) for the significant order or cook your partner's favourite meal. If your attention is somewhere else make sure its worth it because neglect is not good and it leaves room open for attention from anyone that has time to give.

There will be argument and disagreement, you must determine to resolve all differences yourselves, avoiding third party interference most times. Make your relationship work no matter what, every effort to make love work is worth giving a shot.

 For the married ones, keep doing those things you did to get him/her in the first place, those things you did during honeymoon, or the first few days of marriage should be practised continually. You must pray together, eat together, sleep together, encourage each other, study the Word of God together too. Be proud to have him or her anywhere, indoor or outdoor.

 Confession: I receive wisdom

 Prayer: The grace to put in selfless effort to make my relationship/marriage lovely I ask for oh Lord. Restore and revive my relationship/marriage oh Lord

 Culled from Oluwatoyin Adebowale KEY ©2014